It is not only the aggrieved partner that needs to learn how to recover
from the shock and pain caused by an adulterous spouse. The perpetrator
is equally a victim of the affair.
It is a myth that only men have affairs. Whom are the ones they’re
having their affair with?
Affairs are not the product of our times. Infidelity has informed our
history, religious stories and culture since time immemorial. Modern
technology and freer mingling of the sexes only slightly help.
And sometimes that help backfires. As anyone whose ‘secret’ text
messages on his cellphone have been discovered by a suspicious partner.
Such surprises and insightful observations abound in yet another robust
book by renowned relationships counsellor Vijay Nagaswami, in the third
of Westland’s ‘New Indian Marriage’ series.
More than humour, more than his wit, Nagaswami’s greatest quality is his
refusal to point out the villain in any piece. We are all flawed
individuals, he reminds us yet again, and sometimes make foolish choices
in the heat – or boredom – of the moment. But hope is at hand. We CAN
regret, forgive and learn to love again. And, most importantly, cast
away our guilt and our recriminations.
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